Transitioning to being a stay at home mom has no transition. One day you go to work and the next day you're at home forevermore with the children.
I was so sick over having to go back to work when my youngest was 6 weeks old. I was able to stay home for the first year of my 3 year old's life and not able to this time. I cried and cried and longed for my newborn at my desk, mourning the bond I believed I was lessening by leaving her and returning back to work so soon. "I wish I could be a stay-at-home mom. God please make a way where I can stay home and enjoy my children." Well I lay here today in my bed, hiding from all the chaos, soaking up 20 minutes of silence during nap time. It is now Friday of my first week as a stay-at-home mom. And let me tell you, I am more exhausted then I was in all my time working long hours.
I had big plans for my kids and I. Plans to go to the YMCA and do swim lessons. Plans to drag out the double stroller I insisted we needed and go for fun-filled adventures at the zoo. I had plans of always having a tidy house and clean laundry room, plans of organizing, and plans of side hobbies. I had plans to invest so much more time into my blog and into humanitarian dreams of mine. Oh wow....reality has deemed ... that was a lie.
Staying at home has proven to be more work than I anticipated. Seriously. I love my kids, I really do. It's more about all the other stuff. There was lots of grace to go around when I could only do so much in one evening; after all, I was working a full-time job. Now it seems an expectation is on me to get everything done because I'm doing "nothing besides staying at home." Well, there are 6 kids, enough said. And the 3 and 1 year old decide my schedule, not the laundry. Even for stay at home moms, there needs to be lots of grace to go around.
Kuddos to you, veteran stay at home moms. You have paved a way and us newbies need you. Upon a desperate request to figure this chaos out, some of my veteran SAHM friends were able to shed some light on their most treasured life hacks of stay at home moming.
1. Throw a load of laundry in every morning
2. If you have to go somewhere that day, get ready before the kids get up
3. Put on shoes! Shoes on your feet make you feel ready and more productive!
4. If you feel cray cray in your head get out of the house & go walk around somewhere, the Y, Wal-Mart, library...whatevs!
5. Just focus on doing one, ONE, fun out of the ordinary thing with the kids per week. And then more as you get into your groove.
6. Have good, truth-giving, grace-extending, friends!
7. Laugh a lot and keep the kids alive.
8. 20 minutes before your husband gets home, do a sweep through the house with a basket and gather all the clutter....but not a minute sooner because then there's time for kids to destroy it again.
9. Put on new mascara right over the mascara you slept in.
And last but definitely not least...
10. SHOWER.... Because it is tempting not to!
Happy Moming! Love, your SAHM tribe.